EMA called yesterday to come over for Raya Ziarah over my place but I however, miscalculated the hours from Mama's place back to our place. EMA arrived 1 hour early and I didn't get to see both them and Imran! Felt like crying on the way home, and was hoping that when we arrived, their car will still be parked at my gate. I really really wanted to see them, first there is this backpack that we need to return, then they are going off soon to Sydney soon and plus, it's Raya for God's sake!
Dear hubby was sympathized enough that he dragged me to Sunway Pyramid where I splurged on two tops at South China Sea (both of them are black, btw). Shopping is the ultimate and miraculous soul deprivation med. Then he savoured my hunger for Penang Food.
EMA's hubby, Hilmy, is getting this opportunity to do his kinda a POST Graduate program at Padstow, Sydney (was surfing the other day to find out where Padstow is, failure received). He'll come back, teaching at a very new aviation college. The pay is awesome but for the duration of first two years, he'll be getting student allowance which is only RM500 - or so. Imagine if the household income is RM6,000 per month, and suddenly it goes down to RM3,500, what would you do? First, there are rents, utilities and car hire and purchase to be served. Then there are groceries: food, baby's items and stuffs. Then there are your needs, like lunch, clothing, and birthday gifts to people. Car maintenance. Saving. Make up.
With a reduced income, you will still survive. Take a look at any despatch or driver whose income is very much less than you, their kids get to school and be fed normal, healthy food. The lifestyle, however, is different. My question is: Would you be willing to compromise your lifestyle for your spouse's interest?
Like Gabrielle in The Desperate Housewives, she obviously can't. She still want to live in the beautiful house, buying shoes every month, having lunch at expensive diners and asking Carlos to go to jail (wow that rhymes with go to hell! LOL) and serve the punishment.
Would I want to lose my husband over my lifestyle?
Say then, I opt to lose my lifestyle. What would it mean to me?
1. I'd say no to all the colleague hang outs during lunch. Or I'd go and order plain water.
2. I'd confine myself during the weekend and avoid the Malls as much as I could.
3. I'd do the groceries shopping in bulk, scrutinizing the neccesities of every items I bought.
4. I cook every nights, totally a big NO for night eat-out (and shut the eyes off everytime the McDonald's adds are aired!)
5. I eat home-made yoghurts.
6. I teach Azam Zikry potty at very very early age and to some extend, use the re-usable clothing diapers.
7. I take train if I could, or car pool with people.
8. Totally no vacation for the whole two years!
9. I use bedak sejuk for night cream and kiss the jar of de la Mer good bye.
10. Will take breakfast at home.
11. Have to probably chose between Movie Package at Astro and Movie Night Out (twice a month) and DVD purchasing or might have to scrap all three!
12. Start sending letters to Mak instead of phoning.
13. Start running in the park and cancel the gym membership.
14. Cancel all magazine subscription and read onlines instead.
15. Buy used books instead of spluring at MPH whenever I feel rich.
16. Home-made flash cards for Azam Zikry.
17. Probably sew my own baju raya??!
And all of the above are actually doable (it sounds like do'a ble! ). Money have bought time and hardships.
Back to EMA, I pray hard that she won't have much difficulties adjusting to the new life. It will be only temporary and anytime you need me, even financially, I am a call away. Call, on anything, don't you care cutting on Imran's food. You can cut down yours, a lot, but not him!
All the best to a beautiful friend with a beautiful soul!
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