Challenge to Resist Rejection

It is a challenge to motivate my own team to rise up to resistance in rejection.

 

“What I am proposing shall do the company good. Why are there such resistance?”

 

“Why is the approving authority rejecting my ideas when it was clearly spelt out that it will bring us more good?”

 

“I thought this is what the management think the best solution two months ago. I worked so hard to study the mechanism and its impact and now they have a change of heart?!”

 

“Why are the Support Functions making it hard for me to push this through? Didn’t they know that more red tapes will only delay the decision making hence more monies will leak from our pocket day by day?!?!”

 

“The whole Board is having Alzheimer! And they have no balls to make decision despite the high salary!”.

 

Yup. It is the hardest to motivate them to see that the roads are not always smooth and clear. Most of the time, they tend to take sit back and fold their arms and watch. Then a few months back they will come back and say ,

 

“See? If we made decision early this year, we won’t be caught in this situation!”.

 

“I worked for two months straight on the study of the impact but they rejected it right away on my face. I’m not working that hard anymore. I’m done!”

 

“Don’t ask me to study this again. It was rejected last year. There is no way I’m putting it back on the table. Don’t waste my time!”

 

I call these people  the rebel. Once they are in, it is very difficult to get them out of the zone, hence the importance of motivating the team not to even reach the border of the rebel zone.

 

As a leader, I believe that all these frustrations come from the fact that human need recognition. Rejection is a total opposite of that, hence the frustration. Every business proposal that is rejected symbolizes the failure to achieve recognition.

 

Guess I am still learning on how to motivate my team to endure the pain of rejection. However, as a leader, I myself must endure the pain too. Instead of sitting back and folding my arms, I’d like to rework on my presentation of the ideas, injecting or deleting more numbers and figures.  Sometimes, keeping them aside and waiting for the right moment seems like the best strategy, but that doesn’t work out that fine for a person who always like to get things done fast and his table cleared. 

 

We must understand that the Board is responsible for all the business decisions especially when it comes to dollars and cents. To get the Board’s buy in, a fanstastic leader that I knew aka NIC is a master. He went to see the most influential and loudest man in the Board, get his ideas presented before the actual Board meeting.  

 

But to get to NIC’s level, a lot more patience need to be fertilized into my brain. And that patience includes the pain of enduring rejection.

 

 

Somebody that I Used to Know - Goyte

Somebody that I Used to Know  - Goyte

 

I dote this song and when Blaine sang it with his owh-so-cute big brother, my heart was flewn away. Pheww..

The starting of the song is very catchy, you heard the loud consistent bass that synchronizes to your heartbeat. Then came the low deep voice, which is sexy and then came the scream. Perfectly ended with that low deep voice again. And through out the song, it is the bass that keep you coming back for more.

The lyrics is very much raw and sincere. (somehow lyrics like this is really raw and pure, love the effect, don’t need sun and skies and things like that to describe emotion).

 A girl and a boy who were in love, the boy worked for the relationship and the girl thought it was not hard enough and they broke off. The girl went into madness while the boy still wants to be friends. What is it about boys that they want to be friends after they ditch you? Ha. Ha. But, if you ask a boy, he would say no I never wanna ditch her, she just turned into a person whom wasn’t the one I first fell in love for.

Incompatibility.

Someone says that I have the ability to analyze and look at things at all angle. That I am able to present you the reality of both sides’ stories.

That doesn’t make me a good negotiator though, I feel. Because I always wanna see things from the other party’s point of view.  After all, I am just a girl in a man’s business world.

Enjoy the song!

 

 

 

Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
I told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it's an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kinda sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I'll admit that I was glad that it was over

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make it like it never happened and that we were nothing
I don't even need your love, but you treat me like a stranger
And that feels so rough

No, you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records
And then change your number
Guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now you're just somebody that I used to know
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believin it was always something that I'd done

But I don't wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn't catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know-oh-oh

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make it like it never happened and that we were nothing (oh)
I don't even need your love, but you treat me like a stranger
and that feels so rough

(oh oh  oh)

No, you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect you records
And then change your number (oh)
Guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Somebody that I used to know
Somebody (now your just somebody that I used to know)
That I used to know
Somebody that I used to know
Somebody (somebody) (now your just somebody that I used to know)
That I used to know

I used to know
That I used to know
I used to know
Somebodyyyyy

 

My oncess

Perhaps I should blog again

Perhaps..

rambling tots of daily life

You

adam, you are the angel of my eyes

filling up time

Am waiting for a London supplier’s office to open. And the person I want to talk to available. I am starting to regret the business decision to deal with a London-based supplier. For one, the time difference is killing me. He can only be available at the final hour of my working time, which he is always somewhere else making coffee, having meeting. But the deal was good, we got a good competitive price. And he is such a reasonable person. We are concluding the contract and once this is sealed off, I no longer have to feel that time is always against me. Then all operational matters can be done via e mail.

By the way, the Boss lamented to a friend that someone has cut and paste my blog entry and emailed that particular entry to him. I was surprised. Not that I feel guilty, because when I wrote that entry, it was really meant for him to know. It was just I was waiting for the right time to send it off to him. I did during his birthday. So are you the one who cut and pasted it to him?

People have started to advise me to be careful of the closest ones to me. They said that the closest ones are the easiest to blow and stab my back. I am still on the principle that if I don’t intend to stab someone’s back, then nobody will to me. Perhaps I am too naïve? That I think the whole world is kind and always kind?

Theo the Raj has been more than helpful to help me out with the interview I attended early this month. He pushed the date earlier so that his HR people could ‘experience’ me. I don’t think anything good would come out from that interview. For once, I valued myself so high that I don’t think they would want to afford me. The Boss, for once looked happy and boasted that no one can afford his ‘kids’.

Yes, for you who cut n paste my email to him, just to let you know that my relationship with him is beyond what you can imagine. He might be accusing me of slacking here and there, but he knows at the end of the day that I will always stand fiercely next to him, helping him out when nobody left standing. I might be whining on what a failure I have been by not meeting his expectations but it was always me that he looked for.

Oh yeah, I also found out that I now have two stalkers! These two guys keep texting me, asking me whether I would have lunch with them, or whether I am still awake at 1 a.m. Not bad eh, at the age of 33, and having 3 kids, some guys are still after me! Ahaha perasan.

The London-based supplier is still in the meeting. I call him on Monday then. Goosh this contract is taking longer than I thought it would!

Off to Yoga class. (will blog more about Yoga in the next entry)

yoga at home

Yoga at home is definitely painful, to me.

I remember the pose i wanted to achieve, but i don't remember how to get there. Thought of just pose and hold for a few breaths. Ended up with sore legs and thighs.

Doing it with a teacher is different. We are slowly guided to move one step to another in achieving the final pose. And moving from the final pose to resting pose is also structured systematically. With the systematic structure, the muscles are slowly stretched and slowly taught to go back to their natural position, I think.

The thing is i need practice! Beginner's class is only on Monday and Tuesday. They have a few on weekends but have decided that weekends is totally the kids-mommy-time. Need at least one or two more session in between Wednesday and Sunday.

I need to be better at this. Wonder whether I can find a tape recorder to recorded the instructor's voice and practice at home.

Glee I wanna hold your hand

Sekarang ni kat US dah season 2 .. kat Malaysia baru keluar season 1 part 1 and season 1 part 2

Dia cerita pasal teenagers kat high school

Semalam I watched the downloaded version season 2… ada satu bab ni, ada this character, a gay boy nama Kurt.. ayah dia kena stroke and masuk spital.. mak dia mati time dia kecik. .masa dia tengok the mom was being placed into the grave, and the soil were scooped onto the coffin, he looked up at his dad looking for his dad to say that everything was gonna be okay, that the world is not coming into an end for him, but all the dad did was hold his tiny hand.. that was enough for him..

And now that the dad is hospitalized and in coma, he longed to hold his dad’s hand… dia pegang his dad’s hand and ask, ‘dad if you hear what I say, please squeeze my hand’.. tapi dad dia tak respond..

then masa kelas dengan Mr Schue, he sang I wanna hold your hand (was it by the beetles? Or bee gees?), it is supposed to be a fun song kan, but he carried it so differently , slow motion and full of emotion…

I nangis dengar dia nyanyi.. ni I tengah nyanyi macam dia nyanyi pun, I nangis! Aiyoo..!

side Effects?

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/keratin-hair-treatment-side-effects.html

oh kenapakah rambut rambut ku berjatuhan di merata tempat?

Inikah sebabnya?

Winnie did caution me on the hair loss, she said it might not be the case if you are not in the post natal zone.

Broke My Heart

Azeuchry: Mom, can you cuti tomorrow?

Mom: No darling. Why ?

azuechry: *silence*

Mom: Why? Do you have something at school/

Azuechry: No. I just want to spent time with you.

It didn't just break my heart, it tore my body into pieces.

cold storage

A staff was taken out from the operation team a long time ago, and placed as ‘tracker’ for all other people’s progress (so much of work satisfaction! Put me there and I die not doing anything). My NumeroUno the Boss was lamenting to a friend about how destructive the ‘tracker’ was to the business operation, by the way she treated the customers and supply sides.

All can see that is actually a cold storage spot.

All but herself.
For her, the boss loves her and her ability. For boss to create a totally new spot and place her there makes her feel so special, that her ability is needed there.

Deep down I admire her for being so stubborn in thinking that she is good. Eventhough she is the only one in the whole world who thinks that.

Imagine, even if the boss’s rejection is turned into love, what are the other negativities that could get into this person?