Tuesday, May 08, 2012

Challenge to Resist Rejection

It is a challenge to motivate my own team to rise up to resistance in rejection.

 

“What I am proposing shall do the company good. Why are there such resistance?”

 

“Why is the approving authority rejecting my ideas when it was clearly spelt out that it will bring us more good?”

 

“I thought this is what the management think the best solution two months ago. I worked so hard to study the mechanism and its impact and now they have a change of heart?!”

 

“Why are the Support Functions making it hard for me to push this through? Didn’t they know that more red tapes will only delay the decision making hence more monies will leak from our pocket day by day?!?!”

 

“The whole Board is having Alzheimer! And they have no balls to make decision despite the high salary!”.

 

Yup. It is the hardest to motivate them to see that the roads are not always smooth and clear. Most of the time, they tend to take sit back and fold their arms and watch. Then a few months back they will come back and say ,

 

“See? If we made decision early this year, we won’t be caught in this situation!”.

 

“I worked for two months straight on the study of the impact but they rejected it right away on my face. I’m not working that hard anymore. I’m done!”

 

“Don’t ask me to study this again. It was rejected last year. There is no way I’m putting it back on the table. Don’t waste my time!”

 

I call these people  the rebel. Once they are in, it is very difficult to get them out of the zone, hence the importance of motivating the team not to even reach the border of the rebel zone.

 

As a leader, I believe that all these frustrations come from the fact that human need recognition. Rejection is a total opposite of that, hence the frustration. Every business proposal that is rejected symbolizes the failure to achieve recognition.

 

Guess I am still learning on how to motivate my team to endure the pain of rejection. However, as a leader, I myself must endure the pain too. Instead of sitting back and folding my arms, I’d like to rework on my presentation of the ideas, injecting or deleting more numbers and figures.  Sometimes, keeping them aside and waiting for the right moment seems like the best strategy, but that doesn’t work out that fine for a person who always like to get things done fast and his table cleared. 

 

We must understand that the Board is responsible for all the business decisions especially when it comes to dollars and cents. To get the Board’s buy in, a fanstastic leader that I knew aka NIC is a master. He went to see the most influential and loudest man in the Board, get his ideas presented before the actual Board meeting.  

 

But to get to NIC’s level, a lot more patience need to be fertilized into my brain. And that patience includes the pain of enduring rejection.

 

 

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Somebody that I Used to Know - Goyte

Somebody that I Used to Know  - Goyte

 

I dote this song and when Blaine sang it with his owh-so-cute big brother, my heart was flewn away. Pheww..

The starting of the song is very catchy, you heard the loud consistent bass that synchronizes to your heartbeat. Then came the low deep voice, which is sexy and then came the scream. Perfectly ended with that low deep voice again. And through out the song, it is the bass that keep you coming back for more.

The lyrics is very much raw and sincere. (somehow lyrics like this is really raw and pure, love the effect, don’t need sun and skies and things like that to describe emotion).

 A girl and a boy who were in love, the boy worked for the relationship and the girl thought it was not hard enough and they broke off. The girl went into madness while the boy still wants to be friends. What is it about boys that they want to be friends after they ditch you? Ha. Ha. But, if you ask a boy, he would say no I never wanna ditch her, she just turned into a person whom wasn’t the one I first fell in love for.

Incompatibility.

Someone says that I have the ability to analyze and look at things at all angle. That I am able to present you the reality of both sides’ stories.

That doesn’t make me a good negotiator though, I feel. Because I always wanna see things from the other party’s point of view.  After all, I am just a girl in a man’s business world.

Enjoy the song!

 

 

 

Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
I told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it's an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kinda sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I'll admit that I was glad that it was over

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make it like it never happened and that we were nothing
I don't even need your love, but you treat me like a stranger
And that feels so rough

No, you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records
And then change your number
Guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now you're just somebody that I used to know
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believin it was always something that I'd done

But I don't wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn't catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know-oh-oh

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make it like it never happened and that we were nothing (oh)
I don't even need your love, but you treat me like a stranger
and that feels so rough

(oh oh  oh)

No, you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect you records
And then change your number (oh)
Guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Somebody that I used to know
Somebody (now your just somebody that I used to know)
That I used to know
Somebody that I used to know
Somebody (somebody) (now your just somebody that I used to know)
That I used to know

I used to know
That I used to know
I used to know
Somebodyyyyy